The great sex panic movement that began in 2017 with the exposure of Hollywood mogul Harvey Weinstein's sexual assault of actresses, was flawed from the very beginning when multiple allegations of rape and sexual assault were rightly leveled against Weinstein, who had for decades used his position as a Hollywood mogul to physically and sexually abuse actresses, but others claiming "victimhood" without any assault or physical contact were all lumped into the same category.
HARVEY WEINSTEIN AND THE SH*TTY MEDIA MEN LIST
When Harvey Weinstein was finally exposed as being a serial sexual assaulter, accusers started crawling out of the woodwork, the problem was some accused him of basically making a pass at them to which they said no and left, while others were raped and assaulted, which are actual crimes, yet website after website was lumping them all in under the term "victims."
84 women are listed as "accusers," yet a look at what those accusations are, shows a serious flaw in the way the whole #MeToo movement has been reported from the beginning.
The descriptions of the physical assault and rapes are sickening, but amidst the list are women that claim they were asked to participate in a "threesome," refused and left, or others that claim they were asked for a "message" or to "shower" with Weinstein, but refused and left without any actual physical contact or abuse. The rapes and assaults are crimes, the other instances are sad come-ons, passes, but do not even approach any level of criminality, yet the media gleefully claimed, as did the women, that they were all victims.
Then the "Sh*tty Media Men" list was revealed, where names from top news organizations were put on a Google document, and again, accusations of actual rape were lumped in together with claims of "flirting" or a "weird lunch date," and while many men from that list, those that were highlighted in red as committing an actual assault, have been exposed and suspended, or terminated from their employment, we were once again left seeing how what could have been a defining moment for real victims, was being abused by women that just wanted to be part of that "victim" movement.
By conflating "bad" behavior with "criminal" behavior, those jumping on the bandwagon to castigate any man on any of the lists were doing more damage to the #MeToo movement than good. Due process has been thrown out the window and any man accused of "sexual misconduct," (some consider a hug to be inappropriate conduct) has been drug through the mud and are seeing their careers adversely affected.
The commonality is the majority of those accused are globalism supporters, and that "due process" is being thrown out the window, with "allegations" being enough to crucify the accused in public and costing people their careers, without the benefit of a court of law, or police reports or any type of proof of those allegations.
It’s gone far enough. What started as a necessary mass-rejection of sexual harassment and assault is sliding into absurdity and irrelevance. A backlash is looming against the very people the spontaneous battle against sexual villainy was meant to help: powerless women and men.
The fight is being waged not with force, but with the rather bland Internet movement, #MeToo. The battle by hashtag conflates genuine sex crimes with mere childish behavior — blending the Harvey Weinsteins and Kevin Spaceys with the Al Frankens and George H.W. Bushes.
Those of us speaking up against the dangers of what has become more like a #MeToo lynch mob mentality rather than a legitimate attempt to address sexual harassment, did so not because we do not feel sympathy for actual victims, but because we realized that those victims would not see any justice if those reckless accusations that included nothing more than "flirting" or sexual overtures, or in the case which will be addressed below, an unpleasant date, became the standard of "sexual assault."
'VICTIM' OF AN UNPLEASANT DATE NOW CLAIMS SEXUAL ASSAULT
The latest to be accused of sexual assault is Aziz Ansari, who recent won a Golden Globe award for Best Actor for his role in Netflix's Master of None, where he announced his support in the fight against sexual assault against women by wearing one of those little Time's Up pins.
His accuser, who is not named, told her story to the website babe.net, and described meeting Ansari, exchanging numbers with him, communicating and then arranging a date. Her first complaint was that she didn't like the wine he ordered, or how fast he was to want to leave the restaurant after receiving the check. Then they went to his place, where she describes his attempts to initiate sex after the were undressed, to which she never once uttered the word "stop," and in fact she stuck around through his multiple attempts to initiate sex and when she decided to leave, he called her a car to take her home. She left.
Her description of the evening indicates a guy trying to get lucky, sometimes in a bumbling and uncomfortable manner, but by her own description, never rose to the level of assault, but it was her comments about what happened after she left that indicates exactly how confused modern day feminists are as to exactly what does or does not constitute "assault," which is why females writers such as myself and others, are so vocal about due process and legal definition, and a man or woman being innocent until proven guilty in a court of law.
This woman who they call "Grace" states "I was debating if this was an awkward sexual experience or sexual assault. And that’s why I confronted so many of my friends and listened to what they had to say, because I wanted validation that it was actually bad.:
In other words, it was bad date, unpleasant, yet she let other women influence her determination of whether it reached the level of assault.
Newflash: When a woman is physically or sexually assaulted, she doesn't need others to tell her that is what it was. If one needs to ask the question, then it was not assault.
After said date, Ansari messaged her saying "It was fun meeting you last night." Her response was "Last night might’ve been fun for you, but it wasn’t for me. You ignored clear non-verbal cues; you kept going with advances."
Non-verbal clues....... wait, what??
FEMALE WRITERS SPEAK OUT AGAINST THE MOB MENTALITY OF #METOO
Male writers that stand up against this mob mentality where an unpleasant date is now being used to claim some type of sexual assault, will be accused of being enablers, misogynists, or whatever, so it is up to female writers that see the unfairness of every woman that claims "victimhood" against a man for any action they simply don't like, rather than actual assault, harassment or rape, and being able to destroy careers, to speak out, loudly and consistently against this type of mob mentality.
Which, I am happy to say, more are finally doing.
NYT: "Grace's" descriptions of her "non-verbal" clues that were supposed to let him know she didn't want to have sex, despite already engaging in oral sex, has led New York Times writer Bari Weiss, to take her to task in an article titled "Aziz Ansari Is Guilty. Of Not Being a Mind Reader," stating within the article "I am a proud feminist, and this is what I thought while reading Grace’s story: If you are hanging out naked with a man, it’s safe to assume he is going to try to have sex with you."
That is what I learned from the “exposé” of Aziz Ansari published this weekend by the feminist website Babe — arguably the worst thing that has happened to the #MeToo movement since it began in October. It transforms what ought to be a movement for women’s empowerment into an emblem for female helplessness.
Ms. Weiss also highlights a recent survey, showing exactly how slippery a slope this whole sex panic has brought us to, stating "A recent survey by The Economist/YouGov found that approximately 25 percent of millennial-age American women think asking someone for a drink is harassment. More than a third say that if a man compliments a woman’s looks it is harassment."
REDSTATE: Sarah Rumpf over at the conservative website RedState, certainly doesn't hold back in her opinion of the story told by Grace, and while her opinion offers some crude language, it doesn't make it any less true when she concludes "And until then, don’t put a guy’s d*** in your mouth and expect him to guess that means you aren’t into him."
HLN: Former CNN anchor and current HLN anchor Ashleigh Banfield absolutely shreds this claim of sexual assault by "Grace" in a televised monologue, calling it an open letter, accusing "Grace" of appalling behavior by going to the press with a "story of a bad date," telling her she has "chiseled away at a movement that I, along with all of my sisters in the workplace, have been dreaming of for decades ,"
The host acknowledged that it’s “hard being a victim,” but that was clearly not how she was viewing her in this case. “Let’s take a moment to reflect on what you claim was the ‘worst night of your life,’” she added. “You had a bad date. Your date got overly amorous. After protesting his moves, you did not get up and leave. You continued to engage in the sexual encounter.”
“By your own clear description, this wasn’t a rape, nor was it a sexual assault,” Banfield said, using the term that “Grace” utilized in the original piece. “At best,” Banfield said, it was “unpleasant.”
“So what exactly is your beef?” the host asked. “That you had a bad date with Aziz Ansari? Is that what victimized you to the point of seeking a public conviction? And a career-ending sentence against him? Is that truly what you thought he deserved for your night out?”
Listen to the whole "open letter" below:
THE ATLANTIC: Caitlin Flanagan over at The Atlantic also addresses "The Humiliation of Aziz Ansari," stating "Allegations against the comedian are proof that women are angry, temporarily powerful—and very, very dangerous." Flanagan goes to accuse the writer and the woman making the accusations of creating "3,000 words of revenge porn," for the purpose of not validating "Grace" but to "hurt and humiliate Ansari."
Was Grace frozen, terrified, stuck? No. She tells us that she wanted something from Ansari and that she was trying to figure out how to get it. She wanted affection, kindness, attention. Perhaps she hoped to maybe even become the famous man’s girlfriend. He wasn’t interested. What she felt afterward—rejected yet another time, by yet another man—was regret. And what she and the writer who told her story created was 3,000 words of revenge porn. The clinical detail in which the story is told is intended not to validate her account as much as it is to hurt and humiliate Ansari. Together, the two women may have destroyed Ansari’s career, which is now the punishment for every kind of male sexual misconduct, from the grotesque to the disappointing.
NEW YORK POST: Andrea Peyser at NYP says this is when "The #MeToo movement has officially jumped the shark," warning men, "even decent, sensitive, feminist men," to "be afraid. This could happen to you."
If I could pinpoint the moment Grace mentally withdrew her consent, it has to be after Ansari performed what Grace termed “the claw,” sticking two fingers down her throat, then rubbing them on her genitals — a move I could have lived a long and happy life without knowing about.
And this is the point where it gets tricky. Because Grace apparently believes that Ansari should have been able to read her mind, when a simple “Stop!” would have promptly ended the activities.
Peyser concludes by saying "And learning she wasn’t OK with it, “I took her words to heart and responded privately after taking the time to process what she had said.” - These are not the words of a predator, but of a man trapped in an Orwellian nightmare. #MeToo has ensnared an innocent man."
FOX: Karol Markowicz at Fox News points out that "If we’ve reached a point where #MeToo will include regrettable hook-ups the whole movement is diluted and actual sexual assault stories minimized."
Which is the point that females writers, those of us not so filled with vitriolic hatred of anything "masculine" and all men, have been trying to argue since the original Harvey Weinstein scandal emerged along with the revelation of the sh*tty Media Men list.
The Fox News opinion piece is titled "Does the Aziz Ansari sexual misconduct story signal the end of the #MeToo movement?"
I hope so because if a man is guilty of sexual assault it is a crime, should be reported to authorities, charges brought against him and a he should be brought to trial, and held accountable. It is called due process, rather than conviction in the court of public opinion. Places of employment should all have a section where any woman sexual harassed can report the claim to initiate a fair investigation to determine if the claim is valid.
This #MeToo lynch mob mentality of destroying men, whether guilty or not, just with a simple allegation, isn't "empowering" women as feminists claim, but is turning them into snowflakes that see themselves as nothing more than perpetual victims.
That is not a step forward, that is ten steps backwards.
HLN anchor Ashleigh Banfield tells TMZ in the video below that she thought she might lose her job after her "open letter" monologue, and was pleasantly surprised at the support she has received across demographics for speaking out.